This post is number five in a series on taking old school biblical sins and mixing them up to find inspiration for loving our lives more. See the previous posts here: envy, wrath, gluttony, and sloth.
I know this is a wildly complicated topic the world over, both how women’s bodies are scrutinized and commodified, as well as the widespread attempts to shame and control women’s sexual desire. I’m doing my damndest to lead my small revolution by learning how to view my body in a positive light and to own my sexuality aside from anyone else’s opinions.
I think there is incredible progress being made towards body love and acceptance, as well as the idea that feminine-identifying humans are allowed to be sensual and sexual. From the Dove Real Beauty campaign and the #effyourbeautystandards movement to the Embrace documentary and many more like it, to Jameela Jamil and other role models speaking out on women’s sexual independence, the tide is slowly turning.
Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. It is not wrong, slutty, unladylike, or improper to feel comfortable and in love with your body and to want to enjoy it in a sensual setting. Desire is part of our animal brains, right along with the need to eat and the fight or flight response. It is literally a natural part of our being.
To that cause I offer a small list of things I’ve been trying to do regularly to feel strong, comfortable, and turned on in my body. I wish you greater peace, acceptance, and pleasure in your body, no matter who you are 💕
Ideas for feeling fantastic in your body:
Take 31 minutes to do some beautiful yoga.
Go to Lush or your local drug store and buy the best smelling bubble bath you can find. Light candles, turn on some classical music, and have a relaxing bath.
Put on your favorite tunes and have a dance party. Solo, with your family, at a club, any way you want to.
Start a beautiful self pleasure practice. If you need some supplies, check out these amazing options!
Dress exactly how you want to feel. Dress for YOU, no one else. I wore a romper at summer camp, which I felt amazing in, even if I didn’t looove the way I looked in it. Wear make up, don’t wear make up, finally wear that sexy dress, finally wear that tomboy chic outfit you’ve been dying to put on, high heels, flats, Uggs, bra, no bra. The world is your oyster.
Take a Qoya class or check out these free ones. It’s life changing. Don’t worry about looking awkward, just go with it.
Write out all of the amazing and fabulous things your body can do. All the things you can see and hear and smell and taste and touch and feel. How you feel towards your body shows everyone around you how to feel about it as well, just look at how amazing Tess Holliday is, I’m pretty sure she loves the heck out of herself and it shows.
Read through some of the incredible and useful articles on Ev’yan Whitney’s website.
“Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul” (courtesy of Wayne Dyer).
I’m learning to appreciate my body for all of the amazing things it lets me experience in the world, and I hope you are similarly on a path to being smitten with yours.
Next up is Greed!